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Sometimes about babies, sometimes about us, always cathartic

Don’t Cry Over Spilt Milk

Don’t cry over spilt milk.  Unless of course it’s breastmilk, then go ahead and cry.  Cry a lot.

On Tuesday, I was a bit of a hot mess.  My kids were sick, I had to coordinate with my husband and my sister to figure out who could watch them, so I didn’t have to take any time off of work.  I was a bit of a disaster – getting to work late and forgetting a bunch of stuff.  One of the items I forgot was my icepack for my cooler where I keep my pumped milk. Not a huge deal, seeing as there’s a small refrigerator in the conference room where I can keep it.  I double checked with my principal to make sure it was fine to leave it in there for the day.  She laughed and joked that she hopes no one puts it in their coffee accidentally.  To which I responded, “Enjoy the antibodies if they do!”

Ha. Ha. Ha. Oh, I’m so clever – moving on. The day is fine…busy. I’m worried about the kids. (When my kids are sick it triggers my anxiety big time.) I want to get home as soon as I can, so my husband can go work at our other house, so I get my milk from the fridge, and go to put it in the icepack less cooler.  When I pick it up, it’s heavier than it should be.  I open in up, and my heart immediately drops into my stomach. Continue reading “Don’t Cry Over Spilt Milk”

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6 Types of Adoptive Parents

Do YOU fit into any of these categories??

https://adoption.com/6-types-of-adoptive-parents

To my child: You were NOT a second choice

Adoption might not be the most commonplace way to grow your family, but I guarantee you none of those children are a second choice in their families. Please read my letter to Vincent by clicking the link below.

https://adoption.com/to-my-child-you-were-not-a-second-choice

The #1 Thing You Can Do to Have an Amazing Open Adoption

If I’ve said it once, I’ve said it a thousand times – we have an amazing open adoption with my son and his birthparents.  Want to know how we do it?  Click the link below!

https://adoption.com/1-thing-you-can-do-amazing-open-adoption

 

Raise Those Kids Right

Last night was a rough night for Mommy and Vinny.  I’ve been off all summer, and just started back to work this week with inservices and meetings which means that the kids were back to the babysitter.  Well, if you remember, we are living in my parents’ house while we fix up our new house and sell our old one, so we had to switch Vincent’s babysitter right about the time when he turned 2.  It’s better, but it’s still a hard transition for the little man.  And “hard transition” equals not napping or eating and becoming a train wreck the entire night.  I know he’ll figure it out once we get back into the swing of things, but last night he was up at 12:30 and came into Mommy’s bed for the rest of the night.  (Not a practice I make a habit of…in fact, this was the first time he’s spent the entire night in our bed, but I digress…)  So, needless to say, Mommy didn’t get a great night’s sleep, and I don’t think Vinny did either.

When Sydney got up to eat around 6:30ish, I was looking at my phone, checking my emails and texts, and, of course, browsing Facebook.  Well, if you are friends with me in real life, or on Facebook (or both!) you probably saw a status I had posted asking for prayers and positivity as I went back to school and didn’t get to spend 24/7 with my kiddos.  I got so many beautiful comments telling me basically what I already knew (but still needed to hear) it IS possible to be a good employee AND a good mother.  I saw that someone else commented on that status (a person I haven’t seen or spoken to in over 10 years) and this is what she wrote, “You wanted kids so badly, and now you want to leave them?  WHY??? You should stay at home and raise those kids right.” Continue reading “Raise Those Kids Right”

29 Before 30

In one short year I turn 30. That’s right, yesterday was my birthday! We went whitewater rafting…by we I mean Derek and some of his family. It was such an exhilarating adventure and really made me feel alive…which is a great thing to feel on your birthday.

While some friends are horrified at the thought of 30, right now I’m feeling fairly stoic about the milestone. I feel confident in what I’ve achieved and excited to see what I can create in the next thirty years.

That being said, I do still feel as if it is quite a monumental year. The first real milestone year since 21 (because, let’s be real renting a car at 25 is no real milestone). I feel as if 29 is the year to work on myself and establish the tone for the next chapter of my life.

Over the last few weeks I’ve been working on my “29 before 30” list and I feel confident that it is a strong list.  I also know the reality is that over the next year I might find things more important to do. In which case I’ll provide an update as to why something got swapped out. Some of the items are about building habits, while others are a one-time type of thing. If all were a one-time thing, I’d have to accomplish 2.42 items a month to achieve them all.

Without further ado, here is my 29 activities I want to do before 30. They’re in no particular order.

  1. Establish an exercise routine
  2. Read 15 books
  3. Cultivate a wardrobe that both speaks to who I am, but also how I want to be perceived
  4. Learn how to code, or something along those lines
  5. Establish better spending habits
  6. Achieve more focus in my daily life and work to better avoid distractions
  7. Update and decorate our house so it feels more like my style and less like the previous owner’s
  8. De-clutter and refrain from bringing more stuff in
  9. Further develop my personal branding
  10. Contribute to my retirement fund
  11. Start our decorative guest art wall
  12. Buy a new computer
  13. Learn how to cook seven new meals without recipes
  14. Go whitewater rafting again
  15. Find a long-term volunteer opportunity
  16. Run a marathon…half marathon…okay maybe just a relay
  17. Create photobooks, including Keely’s baby book
  18. Do more yoga
  19. Go on a trip with friends
  20. Learn to make a decent pot of coffee at home
  21. Consistently wake up earlier
  22. Go a week without TV (or Netflix or anything like that)
  23. Cut out regularly drinking soda pop (see what I did there?)
  24. Visit a new American city
  25. Have a professional family photo done
  26. Host a large friends get-together (Friendsgiving)
  27. Clean up the photos on my phone and only keep the best ones
  28. Find a signature lipstick color
  29. Regularly blog (at least twice a month)

 

So, what do you think? Will I be able to do all of this? PS

How did I get so lucky to be the mom of this precious little girl?

A Guide to Parenting a Child with RAD

A fellow police wife and adoptive mom was gracious enough to allow me to interview her about her joys and struggles parenting a child with RAD (reactive attachment disorder.) What she has to say is interesting, informative, and relevant to all people – whether or not you are part of the adoption community.

I take very little credit for this, as most of the words are Lyn’s candid and heartfelt responses to questions. Please click the link below to read the interview.

https://adoption.com/a-guide-to-parenting-a-child-with-rad

The Lemons and Lemonade of Adoption

Sometimes life is sour, but it’s all about what you choose to do with those sour moments that make it worth it.

Please check out my latest adoption.com article about the lemons and lemonade of adoption by clicking the link below.

https://adoption.com/the-lemons-and-lemonade-of-adoption

Half a Year

Super Sydney is officially 6 months old today!  It’s hard to believe that she’s been an “outside baby” for half a year already.  She’s pretty lazy – doesn’t so much want to roll or try to crawl or anything.  Whenever she tries to roll, it gets too hard, so she sucks her thumb and lays down instead.  I mean, I guess I can’t blame her.  Her personality is still so pleasant – lots of smiles, coos, and very happy.  She doesn’t nap hardly at all, (unless she’s laying on Mommy or Nonna) but she does sleep for 8-10 hours at night, so I can’t complain too much.  She loves her toes, and she’s chomping on everything, so we’re expecting teeth soon.  I think we’ll start introducing solids soon.  The plan is to try baby led weaning…more on that in future blog posts.

IMG_3707Vincent the Magnificent loves his sister…sometimes too much.  “I hold Sydney! I need to do tummy time too!”  And then he plops himself down next to her – sometimes narrowly missing her head, sometimes accidentally (or on purpose) stepping on her hands or feet.  Sibling love right? Continue reading “Half a Year”

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