Betrothed Babies Blog

Sometimes about babies, sometimes about us, always cathartic


July 2016

Pregnancy is the Hardest Way to Have a Child

Pregnancy is harder than the adoption wait. I’ve officially decided. Pregnancy is the hardest way to have a child.

This doesn’t take anything away from the agony of the adoption wait. I did it. I know how hard it is. But I also know if do it again if I had to. Because it’s worth it. Because Vincent is 100% worth every bit of worry and disappointment and getting your hopes up that comes with the adoption wait.

But pregnancy is hard. There’s other way to say it. And I was woefully naive as to think it would be a piece of cake. I used to look at pregnant women and think, ‘They’re so happy. They look beautiful and everything looks so effortless and easy.’  And it was something I’ve wanted so badly-to be a mom. To bear children. I knew I could do whatever it took and never once complain. People who complained about being pregnant were ungrateful and didn’t truly appreciate the miracle their bodies could accomplish.

I’m eating my words. Sort of.  Continue reading “Pregnancy is the Hardest Way to Have a Child”

Adopt…And Then You’ll Get Pregnant

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard this phrase – before, during, and after our adoption process. And, although it happens, it couldn’t be further from the truth.

BEFORE Continue reading “Adopt…And Then You’ll Get Pregnant”

I Just Finished Putting Together My Adoption Profile – Now What?

Here’s my latest article.  As always, please check out the link below!


Summertime State of Affairs

I’m a teacher which means summers off (yay!) and last summer I had so much time to write.  I had articles in reserve to publish later.  This summer, I feel like I’ve barely had time to write my required articles for, consequently putting the blog on the back burner.  I don’t want that to happen!  I need to start a habit of setting aside time to write every day, even if it’s nothing anyone will ever see, just so I’m keeping myself sharp.  I suppose it was much easier to write with a 3 month old who would lay on my chest as I wrote or nap in the pack and play, as opposed to a very busy 15 month old who does not stop for anything and has now decided that turning around and going down the stairs on his knees is beneath him somehow.  He wants to go down the stairs the big boy way…except that he’s still a baby and does not have the coordination to go down the stairs one foot at a time even while holding onto Mommy or Daddy’s hands.  Husband and I have a bet going about whether Vincent will end up with a broken bone before he goes to kindergarten.  My vote is he will, husband thinks he won’t.  With his lack of fear and general disregard for safety (probably a typical toddler boy thing), I think I may win the bet.  We’ll see… Continue reading “Summertime State of Affairs”

4 Reasons to Say No to an Adoption Opportunity

Sounds crazy right? You want a child SO BADLY why would you possibly turn down a potential matching opportunity? Well, it’s not always cut and dry. Please check out my latest article discussing these reasons –

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