Betrothed Babies Blog

Sometimes about babies, sometimes about us, always cathartic


August 2015

Gimme a Break!

In many areas of my life I tend to be a perfectionist. I like things perfect. I want to be perfect. I want to do everything perfectly.

I realize this is an unattainable goal, and I have gotten much better about letting things slide and not worrying so much. But with Vincent, I want to be a perfect mom. “Perfect mom” might as well be an oxymoron, but when you’ve wanted to be a mom for as long as I have, you want to do the best job you absolutely can. Continue reading “Gimme a Break!”

When to Stop the Swaddle

***This post was written over a series of weeks***

Vincent loves being swaddled when put to sleep. Once we transitioned him from a bassinet in our room to his crib in his room, he’s slept fairly well. I’m lucky to have such a great sleeper who rarely wakes up in the middle of the night. His typical sleeping schedule at night is sleeping from 9:00pm – 5:30/6:00am. Then I’ll change/feed/reswaddle him and he’ll sleep for another three hours in his crib. At under 4 months, I’ll take that any day!

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Out of the frying pan into the fire

Or how Keely ended up back in her bassinet.

I know there is no such thing as sleep regression in babies…one of my favorite podcasts, One Bad Mother, had an expert on that confirmed this, but it doesn’t mean I don’t feel like it’s a regression. Keely’s regression isn’t about sleeping less through the night, but about where she sleeps. We’ve been lucky, she started sleeping pretty much through the night around six weeks. The problem comes in when it comes to where she sleeps.

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Making a Magnet Board

No one would ever mistake me for an artist. I’m using the term “artist” in the sense of a visual artist: painter, sculptor, drawer…whatever. I’m so not artsy/craftsy. I’ll leave that stuff up to Bridgette. But, I saw this neat idea on Facebook, and I decided to try and create my own version for my classroom.

Before putting the final labels on
Before putting the final labels on

As a music teacher, I see about 80 – 120 kids a day in my classroom. That’s a lot of people to keep track of especially when someone needs to go to the bathroom, someone else just lost a tooth, someone else is in charge of getting the mail this day, and another someone else has to make up a test…(Don’t get me started on kids missing specials classes to make up tests…grrr. Thankfully that doesn’t happen much where I work, but, I digress…) Continue reading “Making a Magnet Board”

Together, We Are Parenthood

There’s a quote I came across during the adoption wait which really resonated with me. It says – He is mine in a way that he will never be hers, yet he is hers in a way that he will never be mine, and so together, we are motherhood.

That is so powerfully beautiful to me. Continue reading “Together, We Are Parenthood”

PUPPPS Are Not Cute

Imagine your entire skin is red, itchy and on fire. Now imagine that you’re so uncomfortable because of the nasty hives covering your body that holding your newborn baby that you’ve waited so many months for causes you pain. That was what the first few weeks of Keely’s life were like.

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Sitter Jitters

I did it. I survived Vincent’s first day at the sitter’s. Of course he was totally fine, and I was never really worried that he wouldn’t be. I was more worried about me. About leaving him and going back to work. About not seeing him for 8 hours straight. About my attachment issues. About whether or not we’d bonded enough in the almost 4 months he’s been on this earth. About the adoption. About so many other things that seem insignificant to blog about but are probably what many moms are thinking.

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The F in Breastfeeding

It’s National Breastfeeding month *cue sarcastic hurrah*. It’s a hard month for me because my newsfeed is full of adorable babywearing mamas casually breastfeeding and I AM SO INCREDIBLY JEALOUS. Yes, anything you read in this post comes from a place of jealousy. I’m trying to get over it and I thought I had, but then it a whole month dedicated to a natural way of feeding your baby happens.

Before you read any further, please know I supp Continue reading “The F in Breastfeeding”

Why Not National Bottle Feeding Week?

If you’re a mom or friends with a lot of moms on Facebook, you may have noticed that there’s a lot of chatter about National Breast Feeding Week. When I dreamt about planning my family (you know, when everything in my life was going to work out exactly as perfectly as it should) my plan included children. And it included breastfeeding. To me, breastfeeding is beautiful. The idea of having that intimate bonding time feeding your child food that comes from YOUR OWN BODY is incredible. It’s proof to me that God truly had everything covered when creating men and women. But, I don’t think it deserves its own week of praise.

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