Betrothed Babies Blog

Sometimes about babies, sometimes about us, always cathartic


Vincent the Magnificent – Adoption Stuff Worth Sharing

You all know I write for – I link most of the articles I write there on this blog as well.  For me, it’s a nice outlet to write for an audience directly involved in the adoption triad, and it keeps me fresh and educated on topics pertaining to adoption.  It also connects me with other adoptive moms, birth moms, and adoptees who share their stories  and experiences.  Vinny is only 17 months old, and I don’t pretend to know how his feelings about adoption will grow and change as he gets older, but being connected with all of these other people who share a love of adoption is a great resource for me.

Well, the people at have created another wonderful resource for any and all people involved in the adoption triad – the website – Adoption Stuff Worth Sharing.  It’s a Pinterest inspired site where blog articles, memes, videos, quizzes,  and more related to adoption are shared.  There’s even a place for you to share your own content (subject to edits and approval) but if you have an adoption story that you think can help someone else, please submit it because chances are, it could end up on that page.  (They just shared my blog about birth moms, and how this pregnancy makes me appreciate their sacrifice even more.)

Give the new website a look, bookmark it and check back often – especially if you are directly related to the adoption community.  Trust me, it’s worth it!

10 Tips for Traveling With a ‘Toddy’

First, let me define the last word in the title. A toddy is what Husband and I call Vincent and other kids his age-he’s not quite a full fledged toddler, but he’s also definitely not 100% a baby anymore either, but he has qualities of both toddlers and babies still. So ‘toddy’ won out over ‘boddler.’

When I first was formulating thoughts about what to put in this post, it was a particularly difficult day of vacation, and my initial thought was to write ‘Stay home and wait until he’s 4,’ but if you’re anything like me, you love traveling and hope to instill a love of it in your kids as well. Here’s my list of 10 tips for traveling with toddies: Continue reading “10 Tips for Traveling With a ‘Toddy’”

Adopt…And Then You’ll Get Pregnant

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard this phrase – before, during, and after our adoption process. And, although it happens, it couldn’t be further from the truth.

BEFORE Continue reading “Adopt…And Then You’ll Get Pregnant”

Summertime State of Affairs

I’m a teacher which means summers off (yay!) and last summer I had so much time to write.  I had articles in reserve to publish later.  This summer, I feel like I’ve barely had time to write my required articles for, consequently putting the blog on the back burner.  I don’t want that to happen!  I need to start a habit of setting aside time to write every day, even if it’s nothing anyone will ever see, just so I’m keeping myself sharp.  I suppose it was much easier to write with a 3 month old who would lay on my chest as I wrote or nap in the pack and play, as opposed to a very busy 15 month old who does not stop for anything and has now decided that turning around and going down the stairs on his knees is beneath him somehow.  He wants to go down the stairs the big boy way…except that he’s still a baby and does not have the coordination to go down the stairs one foot at a time even while holding onto Mommy or Daddy’s hands.  Husband and I have a bet going about whether Vincent will end up with a broken bone before he goes to kindergarten.  My vote is he will, husband thinks he won’t.  With his lack of fear and general disregard for safety (probably a typical toddler boy thing), I think I may win the bet.  We’ll see… Continue reading “Summertime State of Affairs”

8 Weeks 4 Days

I’m officially past the point where I miscarried in my last pregnancy.  This was a big mental block for me in this pregnancy.  I needed to make it past 8 weeks 3 days with relatively few complications, and I did it.

I had my doctor’s appointment today, and he said everything is looking good.  I heard a strong heartbeat which made me cry, and I measured at 9 weeks instead of 8 weeks 4 days which I don’t think really means anything right now – especially since one of my friends told me that my due date will constantly change based on how I’m measuring.  I suppose it’s not an exact science, although it’s pretty amazing that a tiny being growing inside of my body has it’s own distinct heartbeat.  And that I can hear it. Continue reading “8 Weeks 4 Days”

Why is Pregnancy so Scary?

I can’t be the only woman in the world who is terrified of being pregnant, right?  Please tell me there are more of you out there and that I’m not alone.

Last night I had a terrible time falling asleep.  I was nauseous, (I could only stomach 4 pieces of toast and some strawberries for dinner) but my lower back also really hurt.  Logically I can figure out that it’s probably because I was on my feet quite a bit Wednesday and Thursday between all of the end of the school year stuff going on, but it’s still unnerving when the three main symptoms of miscarriage are bleeding, cramping, and lower back pain. Continue reading “Why is Pregnancy so Scary?”

I Feel Like We Will Never Be Parents

This is my latest article, and I’ll admit it was a hard one to write given my current state:  Mommy to the greatest one year old EVER and 7 weeks (tomorrow) pregnant.  But it’s important to remember the emotions infertility leaves you with because they never really go away.  And during the adoption wait feeling despair is raw, real, and sometimes all consuming.

Please read my article about feeling like we’ll never be parents during the wait:



How Infertility Increased My Empathy for My Son’s Birthmom

This week is National Infertility Awareness Week. Infertility has become a bad word, a taboo topic, something people are ashamed of or try to sweep under the rug. I’m suggesting a different approach – TALK ABOUT IT! Ask questions! Let’s stop making women feel inferior for their bodies not being able to create or carry children.

I wrote an article comparing the stories of Vincent’s birthmom and myself. It’s about empathy. And love. Mostly love.

Please click the link to read the full article.

The First Year of Open Adoption

It’s almost been one year since we met Vincent’s birth parents. In some ways that seems right because we are all still getting to know each other, but in other ways it seems like we’ve known each other forever.

I tried to capture in words what the first year of an open adoption looks like. Please click on the link below to read the story.

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