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The #1 Thing You Can Do to Have an Amazing Open Adoption

If I’ve said it once, I’ve said it a thousand times – we have an amazing open adoption with my son and his birthparents.  Want to know how we do it?  Click the link below!


The Lemons and Lemonade of Adoption

Sometimes life is sour, but it’s all about what you choose to do with those sour moments that make it worth it.

Please check out my latest article about the lemons and lemonade of adoption by clicking the link below.

Open Adoption and Your Marriage

I’ve been slowly easing back into the article writing. I took a break for a few months, but I did write two articles for this month. Click on the link to read about open adoption and your marriage – what to do if you disagree.


An Open Letter to Hopeful Adoptive Parents

Even though I have a beautiful family now, I still remember how it felt when I was a hopeful adoptive parent…from baby showers to bitterness, there’s a lot of emotions that can make you feel invisible. I know. I walked in those shoes, and my experiences will forever shape the kind of person and mother I am and continue to be.

To read the letter please click on the link:

I see you hopeful adoptive parents. You’re not invisible to me. – Adoption Stuff Worth Sharing

You all know I write for – I link most of the articles I write there on this blog as well.  For me, it’s a nice outlet to write for an audience directly involved in the adoption triad, and it keeps me fresh and educated on topics pertaining to adoption.  It also connects me with other adoptive moms, birth moms, and adoptees who share their stories  and experiences.  Vinny is only 17 months old, and I don’t pretend to know how his feelings about adoption will grow and change as he gets older, but being connected with all of these other people who share a love of adoption is a great resource for me.

Well, the people at have created another wonderful resource for any and all people involved in the adoption triad – the website – Adoption Stuff Worth Sharing.  It’s a Pinterest inspired site where blog articles, memes, videos, quizzes,  and more related to adoption are shared.  There’s even a place for you to share your own content (subject to edits and approval) but if you have an adoption story that you think can help someone else, please submit it because chances are, it could end up on that page.  (They just shared my blog about birth moms, and how this pregnancy makes me appreciate their sacrifice even more.)

Give the new website a look, bookmark it and check back often – especially if you are directly related to the adoption community.  Trust me, it’s worth it!

Questions to Ask an Expectant Mother During Your First Phone Call or Meeting

The first meeting between a hopeful adoptive parent and an expectant mother is kind of like a really weird blind date. You need to be prepared for anything, but you also have to be flexible and honest. (Well, maybe way more honest in this situation than on an actual blind date.)

Here are some examples of questions hopeful adoptive parents should have ready to ask, as well as some advice for how to tactfully ask them, during that first meeting. Please click on the link below for the article.


Strengthening Bonds Between Birth and Adoptive Families

The bond between parents and children is an interesting dynamic.  It’s really the only relationship where it’s encouraged and taught to grow apart instead of growing together.  You start off completely dependent on one another and then the relationship is considered a success if the child grows up to be independent and not relying on his/her parents for everything in life.

Of course the relationship and the love is always there, and that grows and strengthens as the child grows up, but what about when there are multiple families involved?  And a “different than the norm” story to go along with your birth?  In my latest article I address what’s most important when strengthening bonds in birth and adoptive families.  Please check out the link below.


The Importance of Fathers

I have some great men in my life – my dad is the greatest dad in the world.  Some of you are probably thinking that’s not true, but it is.  #sorrynotsorry  He’s the kind of person who will help you out no matter what situation you’re in.  I can’t tell you the countless times (until he bought me a GPS for Christmas) I’d call him because I was hopelessly lost driving somewhere and he’d calmly figure out where I was – through me screaming and crying, “I don’t know what’s around me!  There’s some trees, 2 trucks, and a sign that says  no U turns!” – and he’d either get me back home or to wherever I was supposed to be going. Continue reading “The Importance of Fathers”

Talking to Your Other Kids About Adoption

I recently wrote an article for our adoption agency’s (Caring for Kids) newsletter.  (I mentioned writing this article wayyy back in my March Musings blog post!)  The topic – how to talk to your other children about adoption.  I realize I never really dove into how we told Z we were planning to adopt.  It was, quite honestly, a much easier conversation than I had originally anticipated.  Kids are resilient and they understand more than we give them credit for.  The moral of the story?  Keep it honest and keep it simple.  Kids will understand.  Here is the article I wrote for the newsletter: Continue reading “Talking to Your Other Kids About Adoption”

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