Tomorrow the world will change. We will either have the first female president or a habitual businessman turned politician. Don’t worry, this isn’t a political post. I won’t be saying who I am voting for and why. In fact, I actually hate talking about politics when it has the potential to cause an argument (which is different than a debate). This blog is no place for that conversation. 

That being said, this election has brought up a lot of what it means to be a woman in today’s society and furthermore, a mother to a daughter. 

Our biases, whether conscious or not, are always skewed toward one gender or another. A jury is less likely to convict a woman guilty of murder, but more likely to find them negligently competent at a role that is traditionally male.

Women are paid less money than men for the same job. Women are subjected to unwanted advances and taught to just deal. I believe women, if doing the same work as a male counterpart should be allowed to and be compensated equally. Our society, so much better than many, still has a ways to go. 

Before Keely was born I was content knowing that women had achieved legal equality, that we were on the right path, that we were much better off than women across the world. But then I had a daughter, a daughter who deserves a mom not just content for her, but one who fights for her. 

I know I can absolutely fight for my daughter. What I don’t know is what will society be like as Keely matures. Will we still be sentencing violent rapists to lesser sentences than people caught with negligible amounts of a drug that’s legal in several states? Will we still be saying “boys will be boys” and let them get away with things decent human beings shouldn’t get away with? Will our cycles of victim blaming and incessant needs to tell women to cover up because we haven’t taught the sons of the world that they can’t just take what they want? 

Our society needs to change. As mothers (and fathers) we are the ones to initiate change. Step-by-step we can correct what is wrong. Everything won’t be equal tomorrow. But just think about two generations ago most women couldn’t be much more than secretaries (and only if they were unwed and didn’t yet have a family). Today, women are CEOs and one is running for the highest office in the nation. Just imagine what the world of our grandkids will be like. Let’s do our part to make it better for the future. 

In just over 24 hours one of the craziest political seasons in our history will be over. No matter who wins, I hope we are able to reunite as a country to make actual societal changes that happen at the human level, not the political level.